Been There, Done That

Today's #30Layers30Days prompt is Been There, Done That.

I absolutely did LOL. If you've been following my self discovery journey, you would know why. But you know what? I'm getting comfortable with talking about this part of my life ((That's good, right?!)). Here we go!

What have you overcome? How can you use your experience to help someone else? How can you turn something that caused you pain into something that gives you purpose?

Okay! So before I told the story about committing adultery ((I really hate calling it a story, by the way)). When I 'fessed up to my husband, we fought. Really...fought... I ended up with a fractured nose. I stayed with my husband. Not because I was afraid of leaving him, but because I felt like we could work through our problems by increasing our level of communication and, of course, counseling. And you know what? It worked.

We were able to overcome a situation that most married couples can't. Not only did we fall back in love with each other; we developed a new level of trust. And in case you're wondering, no. He hasn't laid a hand on me since that night.

I haven't been using my experience because I was ashamed. Not about the fact that he hit me ((even though he should have kept his hands to himself)), but because of what caused it happen. I know so many married women who are considering stepping out on their husbands because they aren't feeling loved or understood. I have a story to tell about the not-so-glamorous side of mediocre sex with someone other than your husband ((No lie... Hard to enjoy when you know it isn't right. Trust me.)).

I want to help people. I really do. I feel like people need to hear from someone who has experienced what they are going through firsthand. Yesterday, I wasn't ready for that. This morning, I wasn't ready for that. But now at this moment, I can confidently say that I am ready.

**stepping off of the soapbox**